Not too long ago, Gawker.com posted one of their “Trendwatch,” posts about the phenomena of Adult Proms, saying it was a trend sweeping all of America’s most “boring towns.” You can find it over here.
And while I may not be lusting after a so-called Adult Prom experience for myself, there was something that really irked me about this brief article. In short, Mr. Hamilton Nolan, author, is kind of a douchebag.
Image via article.
Nolan evokes the attendees of said proms as working at “Dress Barn,” supporting your family and “hubby Rick… the apple of your eye, always will be, even if he’s gained a few pounds since high school, but back then on prom night there was just this sense of, what, is “possibility” the word you’re looking for?”
Where do I begin?
As someone who has just finished grad school and is on the job market myself, I know how hard it is. And you know what? Working at “Dress Barn,” despite the horrible moniker, is still a job. Undermining people with less education, as the article implies, is simply an issue of picking on people who you see to be as “low-class” and alternately, just “poor.” And that’s not okay.
For those of us who have chosen to go into the Ivory Tower of academia, and the idea of choice here is loaded under it’s own politics, this author is only adding to an already bad reputation we have of being against the nuclear family. Academia is filled with people who have often chosen against having a family in order to focus on their career and research and, as such, have gotten a bad rep of being children-hating, loners. Good job on perpetuating that one Mr. Nolan.
Finally, there seems to be a huge oversight here or, possibly, a pointed attack. Look at this above picture that is from the Gawker.com article. To me, a happy looking geek couple is thus inscribed as the losers Nolan berates throughout these two short paragraphs.
But I guess that wasn’t my final point. Last year I had the opportunity to go to one of these proms myself. I know a little bit about the phenomena and I think it goes a long way in explaining why so many adults are supporting it.
My local Adult Prom was organized and produced by the local campus LGBT organization. This Adult Prom was for those individuals who might not have really gotten to enjoy their high school proms and why? Because they might have been afraid, or not allowed, to attend the prom with their dates. Because they hadn’t yet had the freedom to live their lives as themselves.
Geeks and gays alike, and basically anyone who was marginalized throughout their high school experiences, never get to utilize proms for what their meant to be: celebrations.
So, if I have anything to say to our dear Mr. Nolan, it’s F*$% off.
If we want to have parties and dress pretty, it’s up to us. And if you’re still bound and determined to be the bully, well, that’s up to you.
I would love to see some comments if anyone has attended one of these Adult Proms. Let’s here the real reasons people go to these events!