Let’s get this out there, for those of you who don’t know, I’m a plus-sized lady. In other words? I’m fat. I’ve come to terms with it a long time ago. And while I’d love to say that I love myself, exactly the way I am, that’s not always true.
In fact, there are days I hate myself. I have felt hopeless, helpless, and worse. However, none of this really has to do with my weight.
Our society has given us many reasons to hate ourselves and being overweight is just one of them. And as many reasons we give ourselves to hate each other, and ourselves, we also create communities to speak out against these same issues.
For the past few years I’ve seen more and more members of the ever growing “Fat Positive” movement. Described on Wikipedia as Fat acceptance, they say that it is
Activism concerning the societal acceptance of fat people [and] generally can be described as attempting to alter societal, internal, and medical attitudes.
In short, the movement’s goal has long been to address the idea that “Fat is bad,” on all fronts. Because there are people who are overweight who are healthy and who are still marginalized as “bad” people.
While I have to admit, I’m not always 100% fat positive, this commentary proves quickly that it is similar to many other things we’ve heard/seen before. It might as well be called, “those racist things you say that you didn’t realize were racist until someone else pointed it out,” except for fat folks.
A friend today posted a link to the blog, Red No. 3, that is collecting hashtags of things that fat people are told. Just as Malcolm X once asked black people who told them they were bad because they looked a certain way, this blog/these hashtags are looking to red flag certain behaviors.
What’s disconcerting and confusing to me is that I still can’t help but agree with some at first glance that, as a logical human being, I know I shouldn’t.
How many of you have told a fat girl she has a really pretty face? And then didn’t understand why she wasn’t too overly flattered.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be realistic about the issues that are associated with weight. However, I think that being negative and shaming people doesn’t help the problem.